Not trying to sound serious, just last things I thought. Ignore me (IMG:[
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QUOTE(Mika Kurogane @ Apr 8 2012, 14:43)
So, basically, you need someone to convince you that people who are different from you or see things in a different way deserve your trust ? I think you and me have the same issue. Kind of.
Not sure if convince is the best word, as it implies rationality, at least to me. In general, I rely on myself, not on anyone else, possibly because in the past people I relied on always betrayed me in one way or another. But I need to unwind sometime, to let someone else hold the reins and rest, and I feel I'm not getting enough of it, if at all.
QUOTE(Mika Kurogane @ Apr 8 2012, 14:43)
Hmm, or maybe not. That's kind of deep. You want someone who's linked to your soul but won't merely rely on you ? That said, I might be just like that as well. I don't want others to feel the way I feel.
If someone merely relies on me, and it doesn't look like they're up to a task of taking care of themselves and me sometimes, then they're an additional weight for me to carry. I'm not drawn by that. I'm drawn to people who live their life in a way enticing to me, and it's possible for me to experience the life they're leading through what I see and what I'm told by them. I'm drawn to people from whom I can learn how to cope with life.
Possibly most people generally lead very common lives, compared to what I entertain myself with inside my mind.
QUOTE(Mika Kurogane @ Apr 8 2012, 14:43)
I forgot to mention I also self-diagnosed myself with a dependent personality disorder (scored a 7 or 8 out of 8 on Wikipedia's DSM-IV extract, so it's pretty much guaranteed), meaning I find it extremely tough to act on my own and need a strong ('dominant') person to rely on. Commonly seen as mere attention whoring but it's slightly deeper than that.
I think acting on one's own needs to be trained, and becomes easier only through repetition. Perhaps you didn't meet with situations in your life that led you to act on your own habitually, and possible consequences loom larger in your mind as a result.
QUOTE(Mika Kurogane @ Apr 8 2012, 15:13)
Dlaglacz doesn't look healthy to me in the inside. And I don't mean this as an offense, but as an observation. His posts look honest, yet blunt and slightly cold, just like mine are either serious, cynical, sarcastic or complete bullshit.
Which could mean he has gone through psychological pain. Like most of us, to be honest.
Seems right. The 'slightly cold' feeling is probably because I try to stick to the facts, and be precise in what I'm expressing. The trouble with so many expressions is that they're good shortcuts to communicate with people who think like you do, but get understood by other people differently than they were meant to be. I'd very much prefer to just speak what's on my mind, in such emotional shortcuts, but when I do, no one understands what I meant. So I don't use shortcuts.
QUOTE(Benjiro @ Apr 8 2012, 15:27)
I have a friend that is like him(if he is like that at all), highly unable to express his emotions and/or deal with them in most circumstances.
Oh, I'm able to. Only, then people have no idea what I meant in my cryptic remarks and ignore posts, and why post at all if you're going to get ignored?
QUOTE(Benjiro @ Apr 8 2012, 15:27)
The first impression that most people have about him is that he is an Ice-cold, extremely depressed, maybe even "evil" person, whereas I can confrim that He is the person that I have shared the most laughs with in my life.
He is highly intelligent, knows how to voice his opinion and doesn't have a problem with it, has goals, hobbies and desires which he works upon, all of which are indicators of a good mental health, all of which are also seemingly present in Dlaglacz.
But seeing as he is as intelligent as I deem him to be, he will have his reasons to suspect the need for a psychologist/analyst, that's why I added that I know virtually nothing about him, and that's why I said, that he just makes a heallthy impression to me because the first impression most people would get of him would be the opposite of healthy.
The trouble with finding a good psychologist/analyst is selecting one that's able to understand what I'm saying at the speed at which I'm saying things (if only to answer with words that will convince me I'm not talking to a tree there), and on top of that still put together some assessment of where I stand in relation to his experience. I have seen some pyschologists in the past who didn't have words I was using in their vocabulary.
QUOTE(Mika Kurogane @ Apr 8 2012, 15:44)
you can be intelligent and unhealthy in the inside at the same time.
Not being healthy in the inside isn't a fatality. It doesn't mean you are some kind of freak who goes around killing people and creating threads all over the place. It simply means you can't fully live the life a person who is healthy in the inside lives without dealing with it first. Either by yourself, which usually is tough, or through other means.
It probably usually means that, instead of having one's priorities in order, clear recollection of what makes us happy, sad, angry, etc, understanding of how we can maintain our happiness in life, and all thoughts focused on getting through the next task in life with maximal possible enjoyment of its moments, one's mind is full of chaos, thoughts one finds oneself dwelling upon repeatedly, lack of ways to rest and to get happier, mental cramps that make emotions impossible save for coldness of logic.
But it's not health or disease, it's how minds develop. They can't be cured, they have to be taught other ways of dealing with thoughts. If people close to them can't teach them, they won't learn. I was very bad 10 years ago, then I was taught a lot by one person, but I'm still very far from the mastery of life that person achieved.
What was the last thing you thought?, general edition
Apr 9 2012, 09:07
