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Call Dr. Phil.

*Serious Face* It does not seem like there's enough productive communication between the two of you. And if she also doesn't trust you that's a real one, two punch. Constantly texting her won't help the situation. I suggest sitting her down, talking it out and try to compromise with each other. If she's unwilling to negotiate, it may be best to split up.

The final choice is yours. I just hate seeing people sacrificing all of themselves for nothing.

lol thanks

There's no sitting down with her. Once she gets like this there's no talking to her. She doesn't negotiate, she doesn't compromise. She will always be right and I will always be the asshole in her mind.

This seems like it's going to be constant.

Girls who have trust issues have them for a reason. Guys as well.

It'll probably be a lot of work and stress to try and cope with people like that.

Most of the time they will be like this forever.

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It's kind of like Jersey Shore. O:

This post has been edited by suta: Sep 3 2011, 06:59

Dude.

Nuke that shit.

This seems like it's going to be constant.

Girls who have trust issues have them for a reason. Guys as well.

It'll probably be a lot of work and stress to try and cope with people like that.

Most of the time they will be like this forever.

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It's kind of like Jersey Shore. O:

I know. She's had some very shitty boyfriends in the past. She says she doesn't compare me to them but obviously she doesn't think more of me than them. She'll never be secure in the knowledge that I care about her; I realize that.

Dude.

Nuke that shit.

I'm too forgiving delusional, wanting to believe that we'll find a way to make it work. We'll see what tomorrow brings I guess.

That kinda sounds like my ex. I broke up with that bitch on her birthday so she could always remember the moment.

Bitches.

They be trippin'.



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She sounds like quite the unpleasant person. How did she lure you in? Were you blinded by emotion?

Not sure if you should be concerned for your safety. Does she get physical? Does she seem like the wife-beater type?

She sounds like quite the unpleasant person. How did she lure you in? Were you blinded by emotion?

Not sure if you should be concerned for your safety. Does she get physical? Does she seem like the wife-beater type?

That last line made me lol

She's not even here, she's in another fucking state. We're doing a distance thing because we can't seem to ever find a way to visit each other.

As to how she lured me in, we were friends online for like a year and then she confessed that she liked me. I was intrigued and wanted to pursue something more than friendship with her. She's not unpleasant, but once we started being "together" she got so suspicious of everything. I made a lot of changes, stopped talking to any other girls online, did all kinds of stuff she said she wanted, and for a while we were getting along well. I swear we were as lovey-dovey as can be all through this past week and last week too.

But then I made the mistake of telling her something personal about myself: that I post here sometimes. I don't know if she's just completely anti-porn or what but she has been furious all night. Now she's saying that I am on here constantly when I'm obviously not. She's too emotional to make any sense at this point, so I stopped talking to her.

Honestly, I think I might just have to cut her off. I know I'm not a perfect guy, but I'm easily one of the best she's met, and hands-down the nicest guy she's ever dated, or long-distanced or whatever. If she realizes that then great, maybe the healing can begin. Otherwise, I'm not going to talk to her anymore.

I'm too forgiving delusional, wanting to believe that we'll find a way to make it work. We'll see what tomorrow brings I guess.

Don't make an investment if there aren't going to be any returns.

It's all about give and take and when you give everything, you get nothing. I've been down that road before of always thinking you could somehow pull out of a mistake and make it all work out. The only thing that leads to is you kicking yourself in the ass that much harder when it goes south for good.

Don't make an investment if there aren't going to be any returns.

It's all about give and take and when you give everything, you get nothing. I've been down that road before of always thinking you could somehow pull out of a mistake and make it all work out. The only thing that leads to is you kicking yourself in the ass that much harder when it goes south for good.

Noted.

As I said, I still care about her, so I don't know if I can be vigilant and truly cut her off, but that's clearly what I need, and possibly what she needs, too.

Then stop contact for, like, three days. After that, some of the regulation should be back in her system.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. She sent me a couple more texts, accusing me of consorting with whores or whatever, but I'm not answering.

I'm not going scoff at online relationships 'cus I've had one, though we ended up fucking like crazy for a good long week, but if you haven't met her then it is not worth you losing your sanity over her. Treat her like shit for a bit and see her fall in line.

As I said, I still care about her, so I don't know if I can be vigilant and truly cut her off, but that's clearly what I need, and possibly what she needs, too.

Trying to stay friends with a girl after a breakup is like being told you can keep the dog after it died.

Rarely can you stay on good terms with someone after shit goes awry, especially if you have an attachment to them. Only once have I ever stayed good friends with someone after a breakup and that's because we mutually decided we were awesome as friends but god awful as a couple. The other ones... well that's just a lesson in teeth gritting most of the time.

Trying to stay friends with a girl after a breakup is like being told you can keep the dog after it died.

Rarely can you stay on good terms with someone after shit goes awry, especially if you have an attachment to them. Only once have I ever stayed good friends with someone after a breakup and that's because we mutually decided we were awesome as friends but god awful as a couple. The other ones... well that's just a lesson in teeth gritting most of the time.

I wasn't implying I want to stay friends with this girl. Rather that my feelings for her make it difficult to totally break-up all at once.

Although I have sort of stayed friends with another girl I was semi-involved with (anyone remember my post from the making love thread?). We almost drifted apart after the breakup, but I guess we both remembered how good we were as friends before things got serious, so we kept in touch and have been on generally good terms. I don't talk to her as much as I used to, but I don't think there are any hard feelings really.

What's the use of trying... All you get is pain... When I wanted sunshine I got rain...

Trying to stay friends with a girl after a breakup is like being told you can keep the dog after it died.

I'm am most confused by your analogy. Mostly because women and dogs both are bitches and unlike the ex, the dead dog doesn't mind if you want to fuck it.

My uncle and auntie have become emotionally unstable. Exaggerating little things. Telling lies. Villainizing me and my brother. I hope they have Schizophrenia. That would be a valid reason to send them to a mental hospital so I don't have to hear their slander anymore. My grandmother backing their actions made things worse.

I'm am most confused by your analogy. Mostly because women and dogs both are bitches and unlike the ex, the dead dog doesn't mind if you want to fuck it.

That's our Rob!

I'm am most confused by your analogy. Mostly because women and dogs both are bitches and unlike the ex, the dead dog doesn't mind if you want to fuck it.

That's our Rob!

*canned laughter*